1

Encourage good behaviour.

“Good job putting your toys away!” This promotes more good behaviour.

2

Avoid emotional reactions.

Take a few deep breaths to give yourself a chance to calm down. Plan out your words and keep your voice down.

3

Focus on the behaviour.

Describe the behaviour, not the child: Say,
“I don’t like this mess,” instead of,“you’re
messy.” Avoid using words like,“stupid”
and “useless.” Words can hurt too.

4

Describe consequences.

“When you stop fighting, then you can
each pick out a book for play time.”

5

Be a good role model.

Children will do as you do. Be polite and
show respect and honesty.

6

Expect what is reasonable for the child’s age.

Babies can’t help crying when they need attention or are uncomfortable. They are too young to be disciplined.

7

Plan ahead for outings.

Kids will misbehave if they get too hungry or bored. Pack some toys and healthy snacks.

8

Be clear on what you want.

Instead of “Stop hitting the puppy,” try: “Pat the puppy gently.”

9

Follow a routine.

Children find it easier to behave if they know the routine, like getting ready for bed before the story.

10

Offer choices.

To avoid arguments, ask: “Would you like orange juice or milk,” instead of: “What do you want?”

11

Treat pets with care.

Children who witness abuse of animals can become aggressive.

12

Make time to play.

Children may act out to get your attention. Make time to play, talk or just be together, one on one.

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