Think Twice

Ways to help your child behave...

Usually when kids misbehave, they are...

• tired
• hungry
• bored
• overloaded or over stimulated
• lacking exercise
• sick or in pain
• frustrated
• anxious about something
• confused about the rules
• feeling that a situation is unfair
• feeling rushed.

Plan Ahead

Childproof your home.

Make your home a safe place for children to explore.

Click here for tips on home safety.

Be prepared with snacks and toys.

When kids are hungry, tired, or bored, they lose control more quickly. Before you head out to the grocery store, gather together snacks and toys, and visit the  bathroom.

Click here for tips on feeding young children.

Make and follow simple rules.

Set rules ahead of time and make sure your child understands them. Remind your child of the rules before an activity or when you see problems begin to happen. It helps if everyone in the family follows the same rules.

The Invest in Kids website also explores making rules and " limit-setting" with young children.

Be Realistic

Check your expectations.

Make sure your expectations match the level of development and abilities of your child. For example, two-year-olds don't understand complicated instructions and have very short memories! They need lots of reminders.

Click on to the Invest in Kids website section " Ages and Stages" for information on what to expect from your child at each stage of growth and development.

Expect mistakes.

Remember, mistakes happen and can often be good opportunities for learning.

Follow a Routine

Routines help your family run smoothly to avoid extra stress, especially in the morning, or at bedtime. Children find it easier to behave if they "know the routine." Introducing toilet learning into the daily routine can also offer challenges.

"Kids Have Stress Too!" Click on to explore ways of helping children deal with stress.

Communicate

Communicate clearly.

Make sure you have your child's attention when telling her what you want her to do. Listen to your child and help her to use words to express emotions.

Be consistent.

Help your child understand what is acceptable and what isn't. Follow the rules and respond the same way all the time. Always do what you say you will do!

Offer choices.

"Would you like to have milk or orange juice with your snack?" A question like this helps your child understand that he can't ask or whine for something different. Allowing your child to make simple choices also encourages him to be more cooperative.

The Child & Family Canada website offers more tips on " Encouraging Cooperation".

Way to go!

Catch your child being good!

Think about how good a compliment can make you feel. Your child is just the same.

Reward good behaviour throughout the day - with praise, attention or special time with your child. Praise should be specific: "That was a long talk I had with  my friend in the grocery store. Thank you for not interrupting."

Show your approval with attention, hugs, and smiles.

Set a good example.

Model good behaviour for your child, and remember to follow the simple rules you have set.