Sexuality and Sex After Baby

Being a parent is a demanding job.  While there are many joys in the early months of getting to know your baby, there are also moments of stress and fatigue that can make you both feel tired and worn-out. The physical energy, schedule changes, and time that it takes to care for a baby, can all affect your sex life. This is true for families whether they are breastfeeding or not.

While it is safe to have sex (vaginal intercourse) once postpartum bleeding has stopped and mom has physically healed from the delivery of the baby, many couples find it can take longer before they are ready to start having sex again. Talk about how you are both feeling and try showing your love for each other in less physical ways until you are both ready.  Remember that mom may feel uncertain about how her body has changed and that both of you will need time to adjust to your new roles.  Communication is very important during this time, and it is important not to pressure or rush each other.  A little creative planning can help you bring the romance back into your relationship after baby arrives.

If weeks are passing and mom seems to be feeling overwhelmed, sad or anxious about her new role and is not at all interested in romance or sex, she may be experiencing a postpartum mood disorder.  If this is the case, talking things over with your healthcare provider is a good idea.

When you do decide to resume sex, try using a water-soluble lubricant to help with vaginal dryness. Different positions may also be more comfortable. It is not harmful to touch your partner’s breasts during sex but remember their function has changed. Breasts that are lactating, or producing milk, may be tender and can leak or spray when touched.  Talk to your partner and make sure you are both feeling comfortable with your actions.

Fertility / Birth Control / Contraception

While breastfeeding delays mom’s return to being fertile (being able to get pregnant), breastfeeding alone does not offer enough protection unless a set plan is put in place.  The Lactational Amenorrhea Method of contraception can help prevent pregnancy IF it is followed exactly.  You can compare information about other methods of birth control and their effects on breastfeeding as well.  For more detailed information about each birth control method, check out the Factsheets available.  Your six week check up is a good time to talk to your healthcare provider about your birth control options.

Did you know that the World Health Organization recommends that women space their births by at least two years apart? This is to give your body a chance to recover from pregnancy and child birth and to allow you to focus your attention on your baby before another child arrives.

For more information, call (705) 721-7520 or click Your Health Connection and speak with a public health nurse.